I’ve been wanting to write a Mother’s Day post for a few days now, but keep blanking on what to say. What do I have to say that hasn’t been said before? Nothing really…
And then yesterday, I was getting my kiddos lunch ready while they watched Dinosaur Train. AJ (4) wanted oats – just how he likes them – with flax seed, pumpkin pie spice, blueberries, raisins, and cranberries. Made with milk. Not too thick, but not too thin. And if I dare make it differently, I’m in trouble… And the only thing I can get Max (16 months) to eat these days is a cheese stick. But, usually he doesn’t even eat that. Anyways, I was thinking about what a terrible Mom I was that I let my kids watch TV while they eat, that I don’t sit down at the table with them and eat while we laugh and talk about the day, that I can’t get Max to eat anything other than a cheese stick, that the sink was full of dishes, etc, etc… You know, the things we beat ourselves up about every day… when the Mama Pteranodon from Dinosaur Train said something that stopped me in my tracks.
The two little pteranodon dinosaurs were playing “house”. They were both pretending to be moms and they were arguing over which one was the better mom. Mama pteranodon stepped in to break up the argument and said “Now, now, you are both wonderful mothers. You just do things a little differently, that’s all”.
Think about that for a minute, because I sure did. That one simple line… we just all do things differently, that’s all. If this children’s cartoon gets it, why can’t the rest of us? Not that what she said has never been said before, because it has. I bet you could find a lot of great and thought-provoking blog posts on the topic. But, for some reason, we still don’t get it. Why was I beating myself up that day (and many other days) about what my kids were or weren’t eating, the fact that they watch TV while they eat lunch, or the simple fact that I’m not the “perfect mom”? No, I don’t do crafts with my kids all day, I don’t feed them vegetables cut into perfect little shapes for lunch, I don’t have a clean, organized house all day long. But, why does that matter to me? I don’t know…
Because I AM a good Mom. My kids are happy, healthy, and smart. They love me, they love their dad, and their grandparents, aunts, and uncles. They are as respectful and kind as a 4 yr old and 16 month old can be. They don’t care that their vegetables aren’t served in shapes or that they may have had to wear the same pair of pants from the day before because Mommy didn’t get to the laundry yet. All they care about is that Mommy went outside and played frisbee with them that day. That she let them have a few extra minutes to play in the bath that evening, and that she always loves them, no matter what.
So Moms, do me a favor this Mother’s Day. Stop worrying about what makes you a bad mom. Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing that makes them a better mom than you. And realize that if you love your kids…..You are “the perfect mom”.
Here’s a few of the amazing moms I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know over this last year. You are ALL amazing and I’m a better Mom for having met you 🙂
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